NARAL has asked that I share a personal story for Blog for Choice Day this year. I've never had an abortion. But here is my personal story.
I've always been Pro-choice. It never occurred to me to be any other way. I wasn't raised by liberal, Pro-choice, feminists who marched, protested and campaigned for reproductive freedom. I was raised by Republicans. I was raised by Catholics. I was raised by a mother who took her friends (in college, before Roe) to Mexico or to shady practitioners for abortions. A woman who told me about the bleeding, the infections, the fear, that she and her friends went through before Roe. I was raised by a grandmother who, although her church said it was a sin, knew what having child after child did to a woman's health and believed that contraceptives and abortions were a private matter between a woman and her doctor.
They never proselytized. They never ranted. They just told me what happened when women didn't have a choice. I still went to mass with them, I still went to catechism, I heard the church's side of the issue. I read. I watched the news. It didn't change my mind. No one should be able to force me to give birth. My body. My choice.
In nursing school, I started working at a clinic. I saw women harassed. I saw women afraid. I saw the security system at the clinic. I became afraid. Then I got mad. Then I got active. I had taken the job because I was a poor student and I wanted to earn money while learning more about women's health. But the fear that the clients, the employees and I felt ignited me. Abortion was a legal, medical procedure. I didn't want to back to the days my mother and grandmother had told me about.
So I vote. I write letters. I tweet. I post on Facebook. I escort at my local clinic with my awesome, Pro-choice husband. I march on my state capitol. I phone bank. I raise and donate money. I adorn my car with bumper stickers. I do whatever I can, whenever I can, however much I can to fight for reproductive freedom.
I'm getting pretty old, reproductively speaking, and it is unlikely that I will ever find myself pregnant, let alone in need of a termination. So now I fight on for the younger generations. There are more restrictions on abortion now than there was when I was in my teens and 20's. I hope to see those restrictions lifted. I want abortion to be safe, low cost and widely available. I hope to see contraceptives given to all who want them at little or no cost. I hope to see medically correct, sexual education taught to teens in schools. I hope that every child is a wanted child.
Showing posts with label Trust Women. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Trust Women. Show all posts
Monday, January 21, 2013
Friday, January 22, 2010
Trust Women. Blog For Choice Day 2010
"Trust Women" Such a simple statement, only two words. But for me, it means so much. The meaning for me goes far beyond abortion rights. It means trusting women to make decisions about their lives, their bodies and their psyches. It means allowing women to make choices about birth control, about medical care, about abortion and about birth.
As a healthcare provider, I feel it is my responsibility to educate my patients. I give them the information, as clearly and as unbiased as I can and then I trust them to make the decision that is best for them. A woman shouldn't have to drive all over town to find a pharmacy that will fill her prescription for birth control pills or Plan B. A woman should be offered choices regarding her medical care and her decision should be supported. A woman should be able to obtain a safe and legal abortion without being harassed, yelled at or judged. A woman should be able to make informed choices about her birth. When we deny these things to women, we deny them equality, we deny them freedom, and we deny them humanity.
Part of trusting women is offering support. The choice they made may not have the results they were hoping for. A woman who has had an abortion should be allowed to grieve if she wants to. A woman who chooses a homebirth, but is transferred to the hospital because of complications should be welcomed and treated with kindness and respect, not ridiculed, lectured and scolded. A woman who chooses not use birth control and instead fills her home with children should not become the butt of jokes.
I trust women to make the decision that they feel is best for themselves, for their family, for their lives. I may not always agree with the choice that they make, but part of being Pro Choice means supporting the right to choose, regardless of the choice that she makes.
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